How I Am Learning To Love – Myself.

Featured, Musings

“I have become too comfy calling myself a piece of shit worth nothing….no one appreciates the amount of work I do. I look like a fool……..etc etc. I want to come out of this self-pity condition and work on believing myself. Stop depending on external ppl to tell me how good I am, what I […]

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Biggest Change In 2017: Grieving When You Lose Love

Featured, Reflections on 2017, Relationships

Many years ago, back in 2002, I got my first dog, Bambi. She was a senior dog, almost seven or eight years old, and given away by my English professor in college. I didn’t know what I was thinking when I agreed to adopt Bambi. I don’t think I thought much. I didn’t have any […]

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An Ode To My Soulmate: Goodbye Is Not A Word

Featured, Musings, Relationships

am not a person who believes that soulmates are only of the romantic sort. No. To me, soulmates are anyone with whom we have an intense soul connection . Such soul connections are not always easy. Having a soulmate is not about looking at the stars but gazing at the embers in the ashes of […]

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Nostalgia, my Father


I read the wonderful Bangalore Blue last month by Steven Carvalho. I was so delighted by the nostalgia it evoked that I have been recommending this to anyone I know who loves Bangalore. First, it was my sister. And then, I gave it to my Dad. My father doesn’t read anything apart from a newspaper. […]

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Why I Don’t What’s App


In May last year, I became frustrated with the constant noise of What’s App. I decided to delete the app from my then-new phone for a few weeks and observe what would happen. I logged in a few weeks later, and this is what I found I had missed: A few 100 Good Morning messages […]

February 10, 2018

What I Read In December


The monthly prompts of December from the lovely Susannah Conway kept me busy and I didn’t get around to my usual monthly routine blogging tasks. In December, I slowed down the reading a bit. I was away traveling for the first few days of the month with a group, and then the last few days […]

February 5, 2018

Journeys In 2017


It’s going to be two years since I left the regular, strait-jacketed life in the corporate world. I have hated being away. I have loved being away. But one of the promises I made to myself when I left regular office work was to find more time to travel. I told myself that I would […]

February 4, 2018

What I Read In November


I am a little behind my usual monthly post about the books I read. That has mostly to do with all the work from the ‘December Reflections’ project, and a fair bit of laziness from me over the last month of the year. This month, though, as indeed this year, I am promising myself that […]

January 20, 2018

Favorite Movies Of 2017


When I was teaching in China many years ago, my rented apartment had a DVD player and TV thrown in for free. The hours were easy – you had to teach for a few hours, and then once supper was over at about 5 PM, you had the whole evening to yourself. There were no […]

January 16, 2018

My Word For 2018

Reflections on 2017

These prompts really make me think. It’s refreshing. That a few phrases or words can help us to reflect on life. Why all this reflecting? Why can’t you just lead life? I know that these are the questions that might come up in you, dear reader. A reader wrote to me saying that I am […]

December 31, 2017

Thank You For

Reflections on 2017

I think this year was a beautiful year of lessons and learning. In many ways, when I look back at my life, and I know that I am going to reach the half-way point of 80 soon, then I feel that every year has been a cornucopia of lessons and dreams that morphed into reality. […]

December 30, 2017

My Eyes

Reflections on 2017

When I was a child, (not that I am not one now), I had to wear thick glasses. Those were the times when lens technology was not as advanced as now. I was shortsighted with a high myopic “power” as we used to call it. I hated those glasses. I was called a “soda-buddi,” and […]

December 29, 2017

My Wish For 2018

Reflections on 2017

Wishes. Dreams. Desires. These three words are what we hinge our happiness on. If our wishes, dreams, or desires come true, we are happy. If not, we set ourselves up to a lifetime of unfulfilled lack and wants. The more I study happiness and joy, the more I realize that we set ourselves up for […]

December 28, 2017

2017 Taught Me

Reflections on 2017

Why do we condense our life into years? Over the years, I have been grappling with the paradoxical illusion of Time. This time that we spend so much time worrying about! There! That rotten piece of writing full of unbidden puns! I know that time really doesn’t exist. That this thing we call past, present, […]

December 27, 2017